Let’s Talk

Favorite R Words

Q. Could you talk more about self-talk and how important words
are to us?

A. Let’s Talk! I have had a fascination with language for decades. I have seen first-hand as a counselor, the power of words spoken or unspoken and their impact on people. On a personal level, I have—and you have—experienced the devastation and destruction when toxic words come to you or when you speak them yourself. Even worse is to tuck these hurtful words away in your heart.

We just finished chatting about depression and reframing our thoughts, words, and messages that have gone south. Discovery of these thoughts are huge pieces of our recovery. Help that comes after the discovery of toxic thinking becomes the next part of our healing.

As some practice for listening to our words, I thought we could think about some R’s this week. I have been thinking all week how much I like R’s, especially Re’s. Some examples for starters are:

Resilient (as in Brave and . . . )        Recovery        Rescue        Restoration        Reconciliation          Repair        Rebuild          Reconstruction          Rebound          Respond          Release          Renew        Revive          Reverse          Reframing

Can you feel the hope in these words as you read them and say them? Isn’t it stunning the effect that words have?

Refresh us all with your own encouraging R words. Please add some uplifting R’s to this list this week and send them in the Comment section below. I can’t wait to add your enriching self-talk words to my own list!

For Deeper Reflection

Isaiah 58:8, 11, 12 “. . . and your recovery will speedily spring forth . . . and the Lord will continually guide you, and satisfy your desire in scorched places, and give strength to your bones; and you will be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water whose waters do not fail. And those from among you will rebuild the ancient ruins; you will raise up the age old foundations; and you will be called the repairer of the breach, the restorer of the streets in which to dwell.”

Isaiah 61:4 “. . . and they will rebuild the ancient ruins, they will raise up the former devastations, and they will repair the ruined cities. . . .”

Helen B. McIntosh has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is a national board certified professional counselor and certified in reality therapy. An educator for 19 years, Dr. McIntosh is an author, a highly demanded national speaker and inventor of the Peace Rug®, an international curriculum for conflict resolution.

You can contact me confidentially at DrHelen@braveandresilient.com.