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Fear in the Waiting Room

Q. Why does fear show up when we are waiting for something or someone?

A. Let’s Talk! Fear is an unwelcome guest in the waiting room of life as we face unknowns, for sure! Fear is never invited and stays longer than we’d like. There are ways to lessen its grip on us, though. Fear feels really big, but it is really a “lack of.” Let’s do talk.

Fear shows up when there is a lack of trust, a lack of information, a lack of faith at the moment, or a lack of remembering what’s true. We do have a choice when fear creeps in. We can let fear consume and control us, or we can choose to think on all the things we do know that are true about the situation. We can change that channel!

I had a fear test days ago myself. My little dog, Millie, underwent extensive oral surgery and the waiting-on-the-vet-call was excruciating. At one point in the LONG wait I realized I had let fear control my thoughts. I had let my guard down. But then I reached for my sword of truth (my Bible) and the darkness faded immediately. The grip released. I remembered these truths: Millie was in competent human hands, God was there and could handle any outcomes, and I did not want fear to rule me. When I changed the channel to what I could bank on as true, fear lost.

We can defeat fears that bully their way into our thoughts and emotions. Let’s talk more next week about ways to counter fear as we wait.

For Deeper Reflection

2 Corinthians 10:5 “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ . . . .”

Isaiah 41:10 “Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

Helen B. McIntosh has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is a national board certified professional counselor and certified in reality therapy. An educator for 19 years, Dr. McIntosh is an author, a highly demanded national speaker and inventor of the Peace Rug®, an international curriculum for conflict resolution.

You can contact me confidentially at DrHelen@braveandresilient.com.


  1. Carrie Brandt says

    Good words for my day Dr. Helen, thanks for sharing. Praying and hoping your doggy is ok???