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Sadness in this Season


Q.  How do I deal with down feelings I have as the leaves fall?

A. Let’s Talk! Many people love fall and happily embrace this season of apples, football, and fireplaces — but many see fall as full of dead leaves, chill in the air, and a dreariness as we say goodbye to summer. Our view of the season outside has a lot to do with what is going on inside of us.

 Aha! For example, is there recent personal history that is unfinished or painful? Do the falling leaves connect with a deep place of loss in your heart? How connected are you in this season to others or even your own heart? Are you near life-giving people who are like streams of water or are you languishing in a dry place in your life? Do you feel alone in a stony place in the wilderness?

So many questions to self-evaluate during falling leaves! Here’s another one: Do you have a melancholy temperament? The up side of that temperament is that poetry comes easily, but that temperament is sensitive to lack of sunshine.

Let’s talk about the bottom line. Does your heart long to be content regardless of the season? That’s true freedom, isn’t it? Know the secret?

Yes, it’s God. He is the giver of contentment, even walking among dry leaves. One more time we are choosing for our circumstances (our season) to not dictate our emotions. Seasons will change, but His Love for you will not change. Look up for the blessing He has for you today!

For Deeper Reflection

Psalm 1:1–3“. . . He will be like a tree firmly planted by [Or canals]streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its [or foliage] leaf does not wither; and [or all that he does prospers] in whatever he does, he prospers.”

Jeremiah 17:5–8 “. . . Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord And whose trust is the Lord. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, that extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit.”

John 4:14  But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him shall never thirst; but the water that I will give him will become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life.”

John 7:38 “He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’”

Helen B. McIntosh has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is a national board certified professional counselor and certified in reality therapy. An educator for 19 years, Dr. McIntosh is an author, a highly demanded national speaker and inventor of the Peace Rug®, an international curriculum for conflict resolution.

You can contact me confidentially at DrHelen@braveandresilient.com.

Our Not-Quite-Yet Season

IMG_2494Some of us bristle a bit at the words, “Oh, it’s just a season you’re in.” Hmmm . . . those words are meant to be an encouragement, but what if your season feels more like an eternity? I get that. I’m kind of in a longer-than-anticipated “season” myself with some health issues, and trust me, some days the weariness of waiting for a fresh season of vitality presses me to the brink of wanting
to fold.

So what keeps us going when a particularly trying season just never seems to end? For me, I have to turn my focus off my woes and onto words of encouragement that won’t disappoint. When it comes to a promising perspective on seasons, I particularly like King Solomon’s wise words in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven” (NLT).

These words give me hope. Eventually whatever season we’re in will end. The troublesome job, finances, health, relationship—you name it—will at some point shift. We will either adjust or bust as we wait. The good news is that adjusting can mean just a miniscule change in our thinking. Perhaps it’s just a slight nudge in realizing that we are stronger than we think. A little course correction in asking for help. A minor fiddling to replace our fears with facts. A simple modification of opening our eyes to the “not yet” instead of languishing in the “not ever.”

We have rainy seasons, baseball seasons, and the holiday season. I sometimes wish we’d celebrate a Not Yet season. It’s already on our calendars as long as we’re still breathing. Not quite yet. I like the sound of that season we’re in. How about you?

Brave & Resilient Tip #46: Seasons do come and go.