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More on Seasons of Our Lives


Q.  What about the CHALLENGES in my season of life? How do I navigate when I feel deficient in my season?

 A. Let’s Talk! I believe with every fiber of my being that we are not defined by the season of life that we’re in. In my present season, I have been taking smaller and smaller steps (ugh) along with a shuffle or two. But! This week I started a program to retrain my feet and the circuitry in my brain to take BIG steps! The retraining is meant to overcome and override this season’s walking challenges. Re-patterning behaviors and thoughts has been a passion of mine for many seasons and now it’s time for retraining my steps. 

Whatever the season, we are often stretched way beyond what we thought were our limits or deficits. There are storms in every season, aren’t there? Crop damage in every season. What is key is not letting the season’s challenges rule us. We can’t forget the purpose of our life. That hasn’t changed.

May I ask a personal question? What do you think is the calling of your life? It is still there — whatever season you are in. Has the meaning of your life gotten lost as the leaves changed? Certainly we were not meant to walk in discouragement. We need our disappointments to be quieted. We need the Overcomer!

You know what I am going to say next. Yes, look up! God longs to take our deficits, shuffling, and emptiness — and enlarge our steps His way. For me, I am learning even more how to walk in step with Him. For those who look to God, He will fully provide just what is needed, step after step.


For Deeper Reflection

I believe that overcoming is a spiritual principle. When the challenges come, we are helped by the Overcomer, if we seek Him. What He begins in us is perfected in us. He truly provides the way for us to manage every season and/or provides the grace for us to bear the challenges. Moreover, we don’t have to be strong. Scriptures remind us that weakness brings us to Him and His Power is perfected in weakness. His strength for our weakness is completely counterintuitive to the world’s thinking, isn’t it? Take a fresh look at these two verses:

 Philippians 1:6  For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 “And He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.’ Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Helen B. McIntosh has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is a national board certified professional counselor and certified in reality therapy. An educator for 19 years, Dr. McIntosh is an author, a highly demanded national speaker and inventor of the Peace Rug®, an international curriculum for conflict resolution.

You can contact me confidentially at DrHelen@braveandresilient.com.



Everybody’s Got Something

For the past several weeks, I’ve been cranking my radio whenever I hear the new Mandisa song called “Overcomer.” I love the kickin’ music and the “chill” lyrics. I just found this incredible video from Good Morning America last week that features the world premiere of Mandisa’s new music video. In introducing the song, GMA co-host Josh Elliot describes the lyrics as “all about thriving despite adversity.”

obstaclesThriving despite adversity is the heartbeat of this Brave and Resilient site! That’s the heartbeat of my own life. I know you can relate to overcoming despite your own struggles. I was so delighted to see Mandisa’s video highlighting actual clips of GMA co-host Robin Roberts, former Congressman Gabby Giffords, Olympic figure skater Scott Hamilton, and The Biggest Loser contestant Hannah Curlee in the middle of their own being bent, compressed, and stretched through intense difficulties. As Robin Roberts summarizes, “Everybody’s got something.”

You may be facing a wearisome something right now. A feeling that life is seriously too much. Perhaps you’re enduring a painfully rough patch in your marriage, your friendships, your job, your health, your finances. If so, please be encouraged by Mandisa’s words [under the Brave & Resilient Media tab]:

Stay in the fight ‘til the final round

You’re not going under

‘Cause God is holding you right now

You might be down for a moment

Feeling like it’s hopeless

That’s when He reminds You

That you’re an overcomer

. . . Don’t quit, don’t give in

You’re an overcomer

Yep, everybody’s got something . . . at some point in life. If your something today feels somehow overwhelming, Someone will keep you from going under. Just give Him your hand. Don’t quit. Don’t give in, because you ARE an overcomer.

[The song is only 3:22  long. Listen and find yourself wanting it for a workout song. Kick it! 🙂 ]

Brave and Resilient Tip #40: Everybody’s got something, so let your something help you to be something else.