Let’s Talk

Comparing Yourself to Others 

Q. Why do I keep comparing myself to others?

A. Let’s Talk! We are always editing, don’t you think?! Comparisons whirl in our thinking about “how we measure up” starting as early as infants and toddlers. Watch them grab toys from one another!!!! “MINE” is a huge word for young . . . and old . . . alike.

Most of us have a natural and automatic sensitivity to what we perceive we lack. That’s why Thanksgiving is so important for our hearts and minds. Giving thanks is the key to being content with whatever lack we feel we might have. As we give thanks, we see in our mind’s eye the many others who have even MORE maladies than we do, if we have eyes to see. The perspective spills out like the straw horn of plenty on the table as we give thanks. Counting our blessings soothes us and even corrects our vision like few things do. That’s when we “get it” and experience a true “ah-ha” moment.

A second remedy for the ailment of comparisons is to pray earnestly for those suffering around us. It takes our minds off “us” – that pesky joy-stealer called self. What are you thinking about right now? Others who need your prayers and your blessings, or, your own needs? Isn’t it glorious that we can choose to change our thoughts? I am thankful we can!

 For Deeper Reflection

 Philippians 4:4–7 “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

1 Timothy 2: 1 “I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men . . . . ”

Helen B. McIntosh has a doctorate in counseling psychology and is a national board certified professional counselor and certified in reality therapy. An educator for 19 years, Dr. McIntosh is an author, a highly demanded national speaker and inventor of the Peace Rug®, an international curriculum for conflict resolution.

You can contact me confidentially at DrHelen@braveandresilient.com.