Here’s to You, Dad

I am teetering between rich joy and tender sadness. Father’s Day is just a few days away and many of you are planning incredible surprises for your father, your husband, your grandfather. While I no longer have a father or grandfather to surprise, or a husband . . . just yet . . . I still can celebrate my dad by telling you a bit about him.

This photo is one of my all-time favorites of Dad who is holding his first grandchild, Stephanie, who is only two months old here. I love Dad’s little dip of the head and his proud grin. You see, Myron, was truly a manly man who grew up on a Nebraska farm, managed to join the Merchant Marines in World War II (a little underage), and went on to marry a Minnesota city gal. Dad started his successful career with Phillips 66 in 1955 and later he added Sinclair to his service station and petroleum distribution business throughout southeast Nebraska.

Mom&DadStephnie1985 - Version 3When I look at this photo of Dad, I see his dark, wavy hair and think of Andy Griffith. Come to think of it, my dad and Andy were much alike. Easy-going fathers and well-respected leaders in their Mayberry-small towns. A dry sense of humor with a love for fishing and down-home cooking. A dedication to family and faith. A generosity that often helped the underdog take another step forward. A profound wisdom not derived from education. And a friend gregariously patient with life’s jittery Barney Fife types.

Of course, no father is perfect, but I have a difficult time thinking of mistakes my dad made in life. I know your relationship with your own father may bring about more angst than fond memories. I am truly sorry. I’m writing this not to brush against any scars you bear in your relationship with your father, but hoping to nudge us all to honor the good in our dads. Not the perfect but the good.

So this weekend while you may be treating the dads in your life to favorite foods, a new power tool, or a baseball game, I may just head up to the mountains and take a drive on the curvy highway that made even my brave-hearted yet flatlander father squeal a bit with a “weeee…whoahhhh” when we edged a little too close to the drop-offs. Here’s to you, Dad!

Brave and Resilient Tip #30: Look for and celebrate the good, not the perfect in others.


  1. Thanks so much, Beth. I WILL focus on the good things about my dad this Sunday, and I don’t always. If you take that drive, give out a WHEEEE for me!

  2. Carrie Brandt says

    Love the pic Beth! How are you feeling these days? Better I pray…missing you! Carrie

    • Thanks, Carrie. It’s sweet to know that you met both my dad and mom. Hug your parents for me!

  3. With fond memories and great respect!! Happy Father’s Day Uncle Myron

  4. Jeanette says

    Love this beautiful, beautiful tribute to your father, and from the character you call out I can see all the best of him in you. Peace in a time of missing him. Blessing on all he was and all that remains in you and all you are, which is wonderful, generous in helping underdogs take another step forward, and wise beyond even education.

    P.S. Your dad does look very much like Andy Griffith here! And you are a cute baby!

    • Thank you so much, Jeanette, for your generously kind words. It’s quite an honor to think that I model even a fraction of some of my dad’s strengths.

  5. Paul Schwarz says

    Wish I’d had the opportunity to meet your dad — you tell great stories about him. It inspires me to keep telling stories about my dad to my kids as a way of continuing to honor him.

    • Thank you, Paul. I love that you tell stories to your kids about your dad, and I’m sure your mom, too. You make your parents proud indeed!

  6. Dorease Rioux says

    Thank you for this nostalgic and sentimental message. It comes from your heart and it blesses mine!
    Remember, I will be glad to share my sweet daddy with YOU this next week. 🙂

    • Thank you for your kind offer of sharing your daddy. I’m blessed by a few fatherly men God has placed into my life since losing my own. I think we were all created to need the wisdom and caring of fathers and mature, trustworthy men in our lives.

  7. Ahhhh….your kind, loving words describing your dad are exactly what I remember him to be on our many visits to “Mayberry.” I will forever cherish the memories of his kindness as we visted in his home and the times he took us “down” to eat at the “tav.” Your dad was a blessing to many!! THANKS for the memories!

    • Angie, both my parents adored you! Some of my best memories in “Mayberry” are the ones of us hanging out with Dad at the farm, at the only “cafe” in town, and the gas station. Thank you for honoring my dad with your many kindnesses.